So, I’ve noticed that when a pollster calls, or when I’m asked to fill out a form, they ask if I’m:
What I want to focus on for a moment here is item C: divorced. I’ve read my divorce papers, and what they say is that when a couple divorces, they become single persons with no control over each other’s assets, etc.
So, why is it that although supposedly marriage is “’til death parts you,” and over 50% of married couples don’t make it that long, if you get a divorce and you don’t re-marry, you’re now “divorced” ’til death takes you?
If the two formerly married partners are, as the law indicates, now single people, with no control over each other’s assets, etc., then how is it that “divorced” is a category? And that being said, if you did get a divorce and you re-marry, technically, according to the logic displayed in these questionnaires, you’d have to check two boxes–both B and C–because the fact that you re-married does not negate the fact that you are still divorced from your previous spouse.
I invite all those who are affected by this question to simply indicate that they are single. That’s what I’ve started to do. Because, you know, when you get divorced from your spouse, that’s what you become in the eyes of the law: single.